Everything I Wish I Could Tell My 18 Year Old Self

Ever wish you could go back in time and have a chat with your younger self? In this episode, I'm diving into the life lessons I wish I'd known at 18. From mental health and fitness to boundaries and self-worth, I'm sharing the advice I learned the hard way. Hope you enjoy <3

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Transcript

Hi, hello, and welcome back to the Unrelatable podcast. My name is Hannah, and today I'm going to be talking about advice that I would give my 18 year old self. And this could even be my 18, my 21 year old, my 22, 23 year old self because I am 27. I feel like even in the last 9 years since I turned 18, I've learned even more valuable lessons.

Let's get right into it. So, divorced dadcore. Anyone that doesn't know what divorced dadcore is, let me explain. Envision, you walk into a room and this is your bedroom and the mattress is bare on the ground. Maybe it's even a sleeping bag.

If this is not the case, maybe you are on a couch in the living room and you're sleeping with your head next to your sibling's head or their feet all up in your face and you're sharing blankets. You've got a single lamp on the floor. You open up the cabinet for a nice midnight snack, and there is a single hamburger helper box in the pantry. You go to open the fridge and there's some applesauce and Tabasco sauce. This is what dadcore, divorced dadcore is.

But all jokes aside, letting go of the feeling that things mean more happiness because the simplicity of divorce to dadcore can actually go to show us that the simpler things are, the less our mind has to think about a million things. For example, for myself, having a lot of trinkets around or having a lot of things around, let's just even say clothes in your closet. If you have so many clothes in your closet, it can really take up the amount of time that you spend thinking about getting ready in the morning and the decision making. And let's say you have tons of decorations in your house every spring, winter, fall, you're switching them out, but it's really stressful and you have to find a box to put them in and then you have to store the box. And sometimes it's much better to simplify your life and to live simply and to let go of that feeling that if I just had more, if I just had the newest shoes, if I just had the newest trending jacket, then then I would be happy.

I felt this a lot growing up where I really, really, really wanted to keep up with the kids' toys that I saw around. I remember it was scooters first. And, of course, these are really innocent things. Every kid wants to ride a scooter, and so it was scooters. And then it was Heelys.

And, luckily, I was able to buy and save up for those things because the OGs know that your girl used to have a business, Hannah's hens, and I would sell eggs door to door. So, that's a good thing, buy your scooter, buy your wheelies. In later elementary school, I think it was in 4th grade, it was the Tamagotchi. I cannot tell you how excited I was when I saved up my, $40 for a Tamagotchi at the time. Or, each time that I wanted to sell my clothes, I remember when I got married, we didn't have a ton of money and I I really wanted to get new clothes and it just wasn't in the budget.

So I started Hannah Feltz Closet on Instagram and actually don't even have the login information for this anymore. It is lost in the abyss somewhere, but I would sell my clothes and I would ship them. And this was something that gave me lots of gratitude for my things because I wouldn't just throw it away or give it to the thrift store because even if it lands in the thrift store, it's most likely still going to end up in a waste facility of some type. And, I was able to rehome these things and then go and buy other things with the money. And so the money was always being recycled in a way and not wasted.

There's lots of lots and lots of different ways that we can do that, with Instagram or indie clover. Poshmark was a really big one at one time. There's deep hop. But that just goes to say that the less things that you have sitting around, the less cluttered your mind is. I like to think of clutter, the more times that I feel cluttered, usually, it's because I'm looking around at clutter and because I have a lot of things that I'm seeing with my eyes.

So my brain really feels that. And I don't know. I don't know why that is. It's just the less that we have, the less things will occupy our mind. And I might have started that off with divorced dad core, but it's like, it's that simple idea of cleaning out the pantry when you're not using things instead of each time you go to move and you feel like you're wasting so many things and so much food and money, go through it weekly or monthly or each time you go shopping.

Every time I go shopping, listen, I don't enjoy this, but I go through my fridge and I throw out the expired foods. I throw out the things that maybe I didn't finish. And so I know we're starting super simple. But for the first piece of advice to myself would really be to just let go of more things bringing more happiness. Because I feel like, especially when you grow up without a lot of money, you have the idea that if you just had this or if you just had that, you would be happier.

And I think, we've all come to know that that's just not how life works and living a more simple life is the way to keep our mind more clear. The next one is that more friends doesn't mean deeper connections. And this kind of goes along with my last one in which keeping your circle small means that you will have more room in your heart for genuine connections, for weekend trips, for fun activities, for really spending quality time with quality people. I mean, going through high school, I thought that the more friends that I had and the more people that I pleased and, kind of becoming this people pleaser, I thought that that meant that I was a good friend, and it meant that I would be happier and that I was more light. But, really, it can really spread you out really, really thin, and it doesn't allow you to have room for those connections and for those friendships.

And it can be almost selfish in a way because then you are not able to provide the support and the trust and the care that your friends also deserve to have from you. And I know that it can look glamorous, and I know that it can look really attractive to see people online and to see people with huge groups of friends and parties or things like that. And I just remember being in those spaces and feeling those feelings in high school. And it's really ironic, but usually when I was surrounded by so many people, when I had all those people that I was surrounded by, I was never more lonely. It was the loneliest time that I felt.

And so remembering that it's okay if you have,  just 2 or 3 really close friends in your life. You don't, you can be a friend to everyone, but you don't have to invite them into your close circle. And having those relationships and,  having those friends in high school that you end up growing apart from, it's okay. It's okay if you don't end up maintaining those. And it's actually really interesting because I really tried to maintain that type of friendship style in college, but my friends who I have remained close from high school now were actually less prevalent in my life in college because we were growing up and it's okay to grow up separately.

Which actually brings me to my 3rd piece of advice, which is growing means that you are going to lose past versions of yourself and not everybody will like that. My episode about not eating meat for the first time in 7 years was all about how changing hurts and how changing really makes you reflect. And it is about the pain that changing can bring into your life and the necessary pain almost. My parents divorce was one of the most painful yet pivotal points in my life because it created the foundation for my siblings and I to be able to have our relationship grow and for the roots to get even deeper and stronger. And I don't know.

I would like to imagine that that would have happened if they hadn't have gotten divorced. But something tells me from the way that we were headed before their divorce, I mean, my brother and I were not as close and, we're very, very close now. And so I just feel like if growing means that you have to let go of past things, that's okay. The people that truly matter in your life are going to support you even if you're letting go of versions of yourself that doesn't align anymore. And I know that you've heard before where people that don't benefit from your boundaries are going to leave.

And that's true. And and you'll realize that. For myself, I've had many of those times with experiences in regards to leaving my religion or having personal boundaries crossed, developing deep, deep mental illnesses. I'm, like, developing and, like, they've always been there. But having mental illness, like, kind of come and go in waves, some people will benefit from you in your times of strength, and then they'll leave when you're in your times of weakness or loneliness, or it'll be the opposite.

Maybe they benefit from you when you're in the times of weakness or when you are more vulnerable And when you climb out of that, or let's say you get into those times, you realize who's there for you and you realize who's not. And you learn those boundaries and you develop into the person that you're meant to be because life isn't always going to be full of happy times. There's gonna be ups and downs, as we all know, and it's about who's along with you during those times. And so this leads me to number 4, which is to be what you are to others and to stop expecting you from other people because you're the only person that can give that to yourself. And I don't know if I'm speaking in riddles here, but essentially treat yourself the way that you want to be treated.

Be the way that you want to be treated. Give yourself that love, that attention, that empathy, that care and respect. This is going to sound corny, but it's true. A healer needs healing, so give yourself the means to do that. The planner needs surprises.

Surprise yourself with self care or a hike outside or a well deserved day off. The giver needs to receive. This doesn't have to be materialistic. I mean, if you want it to, then, yeah, go go get yourself something nice every now and then, but really receive compliments without self deprecating. Accept love without deflection and allow help without feeling guilty.

A lot of the times we want to help other people because it makes us feel good, and then we don't want to accept help. And it's kind of selfish to do that. What I mean? It it does take vulnerability to accept help, but accept help without feeling guilty because, I don't know, most of us aim to please or to give or to love without expectations in return, but it will leave you drained if you aren't being taken care of. And I don't know why we expect ourselves to take care of everybody else and to love everybody else and to think about everybody else and to not do that for ourself.

When when we come home, at the end of the day, when you close your eyes, you are left with your mind and your thoughts and your body and yourself. And so why aren't we taking care of that first and foremost? The next piece of advice is exactly that. I feel like we kind of have a thing going on here, but it's to take care of yourself. And being selfless is something that I don't know if I was taught this young or if I took it upon myself really young, But to sacrifice for others' well-being, I mean, you can get caught up in sacrificing so much as to where suddenly you're left behind while other people are out there.

They're pursuing their hopes and their dreams, and they've gone to school and they've gotten their dream job. All the while you have been you have been their support system and you have been there cheering them on. This is kind of more what I mean is to be assertive and kind, not naive and nice. The world is not rainbows and butterflies. And our parents do, their best to repair us, but we are each prepared or not prepared differently.

And so when we get into the real world at 18, we have to deal with so many different personalities, so many different personalities. There are people who are in it for themselves and they won't look out for you and they won't look out for others. And so being your number one support system is so important. And I guess I guess that kind of aligns with the last one that I said, but, yeah, just really take care of yourself. I feel like you can almost get addicted to sacrificing for others because it feels it feels good.

It feels good when when someone appreciates the sacrifice that you made for them. It's nice when someone says, yes. She does such a good good job at taking care of,  if you're a mom, like, yeah, you're such a wonderful mother. You're always sacrificing for your kids. How many times have you had that said to you?

I mean, I haven't had that said to me because I'm not a mom, but I feel like I've said that to people. Like, you're making such a big sacrifice and it's always been with the best of intentions, but it's not good to constantly sacrifice as to where you're not left with anything. And and yeah, that's just something I've been thinking about recently. I don't know why, but being your number one support system is so important because I guess literally all of these so far could be combined together. But yeah, leaving you drained.

It can leave you drained if you if you don't take care of you. The next one is that you are too full of life and dreams to be somebody's maybe. I wasted so much time in high school thinking about boys that treated me like chopped liver. You know, the let them theory? I think we all know it.

Let them show you who they are. Let them. If they want to leave, let them. If they want to leave you on red, let them. If they want to be a bad friend and not take accountability for hurting your feelings, let them.

If they want to be that person that doesn't show up when they say they're going to, let them. Let them show you who they are and believe it when they do. Don't make them do it,  2, 3, 4, or 5 times. If you get caught up in situationships and forget what you feel, you have to remember what you deserve. And if there's something that I could tell my,  I guess this would be my 16 year old self because I wasn't dating when I was 18.

I mean, I guess I was dating my now husband. But you know what I'm saying? I that's not a typical that's not a typical situation for most people. And you are just too full of life to be somebody's maybe. Somebody should be 110% positive about you, and they shouldn't give you feelings of doubt and mixed signals.

And I don't want any I don't want any of you to feel that way. I don't want any of you to feel that way. No one deserves to feel that way. This next one is that building trust in yourself is done by keeping the promises that you make to yourself. And I know I've shared this before, but I'm going to share it again.

And it's the story of waking up and telling your friend, hey, I have an idea. Why don't we go to the gym together? We can be accountability partners, you and I. And every morning, we can get up at 7. Let's just say 7 because it doesn't seem super unrealistic if you haven't worked out before.

6 might be, pushing it for, building new habits. So, yeah, let let's meet up at 7 at the gym. We'll work out together, and we can support each other on our fitness journey, on building up our muscles, on getting strong, building up our bone density, getting our cardiovascular system in shape. You know what I'm saying? Well, what happens when you don't sleep really good?

That very night that very night after having this conversation, you sleep really crappy and you wake up and you remember, well, sleeping is really important and sleeping is actually really important for my health. And so I'm sure they'll understand. I'm sure they'll understand. I'll just tell them that I'll do it tomorrow, and, like, tomorrow is for sure the day that we start. Like, it's okay.

Just go without me, and today will be your 1st day. Tomorrow will be my 1st day. And you tell them that, and they're a little bit disappointed, but they totally understand because, like you said, sleeping's important and you've gotta be rested for your workout. And so they go without you. The next morning, oh my goodness.

How could you forget to set your alarm? You've slept in. But don't worry, friend. I promise I'm gonna be there tomorrow. In fact, I'm gonna be there half an hour before you, and I'll text you when I get there.

Well, as you miss your workouts and as you keep accidentally not showing up and as you continue delaying this, you keep breaking your promise to your friend. And your friend is really you because this is what you tell yourself each day. This is what you tell yourself each day when you tell yourself that tomorrow's going to be the day that I go to the gym. And then you come up with an excuse. And so no wonder why you hardly trust yourself.

You haven't built up any trust in the first place. You haven't kept the promises that you've made to yourself, and it doesn't even have to be along with fitness. But what if it was with, I don't know, cleaning up, maybe it was doing the laundry. How are you supposed to build trust within yourself if you're constantly excusing your behavior? It's like it creates this almost toxic relationship within yourself where you don't trust that you will do what you say.

And so then you have a hard time building your confidence. And so building trust in yourself happens by keeping the promises that you make. And that's something that I have learned over the years. And it's always flowing. It's ever flowing.

And it doesn't mean that you're going to enjoy it. It really doesn't. It doesn't mean that every single day you'll show up to your workout and be really excited and and stoked that for the next, 70 years of your life, you're gonna keep up this routine. No. I'm just kidding.

But it is so important to build that confidence in yourself and that trust in yourself. Because if you don't have trust in yourself and confidence in yourself, it makes it really hard not to put all that trust and confidence in somebody else. And you need to trust yourself first because if you aren't able to trust yourself first, it's hard to be able to make decisions that are in your best interest. I don't know if that makes sense or if I'm just talking into the ether at this point, but yeah. Okay.

My next piece of advice to my 18 year old self is to assume that life is happening in your favor because it is. Instead of assuming that the worst is gonna happen, if you're feeling really anxious, let's say about a job interview or about your next semester of school starting, assume that it's going to happen right, that it will all work out. What if it does all work out? What if it's better than you could have even ever imagined? Well, if it isn't, and if it doesn't, then you'll have that trust in yourself that you'll be able to handle it.

And instead of spending, the 3 weeks let's say that you have a job interview in 3 weeks. Instead of spending those entire 3 weeks riddled with crippling anxiety because of this thing that hasn't even happened yet, you spend that time assuming it's gonna happen in your favor and you spend that time confident and you spend that time excited. Well, if it doesn't work out, then instead of spending 3 weeks and a day, assuming it's not gonna work out and being anxious, you're just gonna be anxious for that one day and you're gonna figure it out. And this all goes to say that it's much easier said than done because what is this the core of? Anxiety, of course.

But, feeling safe, calm and happy and living in a comfortable state of what if it does go right is such a better space to be in for us to be able to relax, for us to be able to breathe during the day. And this is something I'm currently working on. And, honestly, a lot of these things are things that are ever flowing throughout our life, and they're not anything I mean, maybe a few of them are things that, you might ace and then you keep that. You you keep that discipline or you keep that belief for the rest of your life. But I feel like a lot of these things are things that flow.

They change and they come and go in waves. But if you begin early, then you can begin to build up that trust and that track record of coming out of the other side stronger. I mean, hey, we've survived up to this point. Right? So each of us, everyone listening, we have a pretty good track record.

We do. I mean, we're still here. We we've made it. We're we're here now. So why can't we continue forward?

Okay. So this next one is that recognizing that therapy and or medication doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you are strong enough to recognize and break a cycle. If only I could add up the amount of days, times, years, weeks spent trying to ignore or take on myself, my depression, anxiety, past traumas, doing that just suppresses them until they come up later. Yeah.

I used to think I could work out for depression. I used to think that working out would cure it. And you know what? For for maybe a baseline level of depression, I know it helps. And honestly, like, if I wouldn't have had it, who knows where I'd be?

But it doesn't solve it. It doesn't take it away. It doesn't solve your past traumas. It doesn't it doesn't fix the root of things because suppressing it only means they're going to come up later and they will come up whether that's in triggers or in communication styles or in decisions that you subconsciously make or don't make to keep you safe. And so therapy is something that I fully believe is so important.

And it's kind of frustrating because it doesn't feel like it works for a very long time. It's something that you have to be committed to. It's something where you have to recognize, you know what? It might take me 1 or 2 or 3 therapists to find the one that I can connect with and the one that can really speak to me in the way that I need or I'm able to hear it, but it's completely worth it. And with medication, I just threw that in there because I feel like maybe less now.

Maybe there's less of a stigma with it now, but I just remember thinking, like, Hannah, you're you're strong enough. You don't need that. You don't need that. You're not weak and almost gaslighting yourself into believing that if you do need medication, that it means that you are weak and you couldn't do it on your own. And that's just not true.

Sometimes there's a time and a place for it, and it's much better to have that than to not be here. And so that's something that I am 100% a an advocate for is for therapy and, pairing that with medication if needed. The next one is that the world will not let you get comfortable where you don't belong. And this is something as is everybody everything else, I guess, that I'm still still learning and working through and accepting every day. And, the world won't let you get comfortable where you don't belong.

You couldn't put God there. You could say universe. You can fill it with whatever you'd like. But the premise of it is is that you won't be able to settle down where you don't belong. You'll feel that anxiety.

You'll feel that fear. You'll feel those feelings. Maybe it's around people. Maybe it's where you're living. But if people belonged in your life, they would be there and they would continue to stay there.

If your estranged father or mother or sister, brother or best friend, whoever it may have been, if they were meant to stay, they would have. But they they weren't in alignment with you and you weren't with them. And I greatly believe that our energy doesn't lie and our energy speaks loudly and our body needs to be listened to. And if they're not, that's when, in my opinion, that's when you end up developing issues in your gut or maybe acne or hair loss. Stress on the body really, really affects us.

And I'm pretty sure it's, like, the number one killer of people is stress, because stress allows your body to become so essentially, it allows your body to be able to accept disease and illnesses so much, so much more. It creates a weaker foundation. And so feeling this stress, feeling this energy, this goes for jobs, for careers, where you live. It goes for what you might see as failures. Each thing you try, each each job you move on from is a lesson learned.

And with people, if you feel like you're constantly being misunderstood or undervalued, know that being misunderstood is a sign of authenticity because you're not existing in just black and white. And this helps you move on when you need to move on, to speak up when you need to speak up or to leave when you need to leave. And knowing that in yourself and knowing that the world won't let you stay where you don't belong will allow you to trust yourself, your body, to trust your intuition and your ability to continue creating the life that you've always wished for. And I feel like this has become really corny, but that's okay. We're just going to continue on with my next piece of advice, which is to not predetermine what others will think of you.

Because when you pre predetermine what others think of you, you take away their choice. You're being judgmental by assuming that people don't like you. Assuming they're kind allows you to open up your heart and to get to know others and to build that trust. And trust for you might not be something that you come by easily, but you begin to learn day by day how to filter people out who are genuine and people who are genuine. Most people are not walking around judging you anyways.

I mean, think about it. Do you just walk down the street judging everybody? Like, everywhere that you go, are you constantly thinking about everybody else? If the answer is yes, then we could talk. But most likely you're not because they're the star of the show in their head.

You're the main character in yours, and that should bring you relief and comfort in being yourself. The fact that you're walking around thinking about yourself and your day, and they're walking around thinking about themselves in their day. And so, yeah, predetermining what others think of you, it steals any chance of of friendships. It steals away any chances of new connections and networking and vulnerability. That's why people say that if you approach people that you don't know and you go out of your way to network with people, that's those are sometimes the best connections that you can make because you're showing up in full confidence and you're showing up without judgment.

And instead of showing up assuming that somebody's going to judge you and not like you and walking into class the 1st day of school assuming that people aren't gonna like your outfit, it's I mean, it's a little self conceited, might I? Because people really don't care that much. And that that's not to say that it doesn't happen because, of course, bullies exist. And bullies exist in elementary school and middle school and high school, and then sometimes they never grow up and they go out into the real world. But most of us are not that, and most of us are able to name that from afar and to kind of stay away from that.

Okay. Now that I have gone through the more, I don't know, lighthearted ones. Were those lighthearted? I'm gonna go into some funny ones. I guess the other ones were a little bit more serious.

Okay. All I want to say is that these ones are not as deep, but they are. And this is to not track your calories. If I could tell my 18 year old self one thing, it would be, Hannah, don't track your calories because there's going to be your life before you track your macros and your calories and there's going to be your life after. Is it sound a little a little intense?

A little I don't know. Like, come on, Hannah. It's not that serious. Maybe. And I know that I chose it and I know it's a lifestyle that I'll have that I have and I'll probably always do.

But that's the point is I don't really believe that it's something that we as humans were meant to do and think about constantly. That math with food is the best thing for our brains. So don't guilt yourself if you don't do that and don't force yourself to do it because I will never think about food in the terms of just food ever again. And that might seem sad or, I don't know, controversial, but it's just how it is. And it's how I've been since I was, I don't know, 11, 12, 13 years old.

It's just how it's going for me. And tracking macros now, in fact, allows me to know that I'm eating enough because if I didn't do that, I for sure would not eat enough and wouldn't really be able to know what intuitive eating is and and whatnot. And so, yeah, don't track your calories if you don't, because, yes, it's important to get enough protein, but you can learn how to get in enough protein without tracking every little thing and about making an obsession around food is really what I'm trying to get around. Kind of along with that one, as these all have been, but it's to treat your body like you're living in your best friend's body. If you woke up one day and you had switched bodies with your best friend, how would you treat it?

Would you say mean things to it? Would you give your best friend unrealistic body standards? Would you tell your best friend she just needs to lose like £5 more? Or maybe she should go on a sugar free diet for a few weeks because that would be good for her. No.

Nope. You would probably go on daily walks. You'd probably go get some vitamin d. You'd exercise a few times a week because it's good for your heart and you want your best friend to live a good long life with a good heart. And you would give yourself plenty of compliments and love because you love complimenting your best friend.

So treat yourself like your best friend. And if you find yourself doing the opposite of what you what I said to your best friends, then I actually don't think you'd be listening to my podcast because I don't know a lot of people out there that are not their best friend's number one supporter, and you have to support yourself too. And that leads me to my last one, which is you cannot hate your way into loving yourself. If self hate is your fuel for any type of goal, whether it's in the gym or daily life, school, work, you're still going to hate yourself when you get to your goals. When you reach that dream career, you're still not going to be happy.

When you reach your dream, quote unquote, dream body, you're still not gonna be happy. Bodies are not meant to be a depiction of the love that you have for yourself. Love goes beyond what we look like on the outside. And the older that I get, it's more it's more and more telling that you cannot judge. I mean, I think we all know this.

You can't judge another person's discipline or another person's love for themselves by the way that they look because there are so many things at play. There's genetics, there's chronic disease, there's ailments, there's so many things. And you cannot hate yourself into someone that you love. And I'm using your body as an example for this because a lot of times people think, you know what, I hate where I am right now. And so if I'm just £20 less than this or if I gain all this muscle, then I'm going to love your love myself.

And it's not true because you're still going to show up and you're still going to have the same internal beliefs and the same personality. Having a different body type doesn't mean that you have a different set of thoughts. I mean, I think it's pretty evident from some of the most fit, beautiful women on television a lot of times are not happy and they're going through these really hard things. And a lot of times they don't have very much self confidence. And I don't know if we're talking about, TV shows like Love Island or the multitude of relationship TV shows out there just go to show that you could be on the, hottest people in the world TV show and be miserable.

They probably also tried to get that body type because they thought it would make them happy. And it doesn't because at the end of the day, you're still left with the thoughts you have in your brain. That's my last one, because that was something that I heard a little bit ago and it really stuck out to me that you just can't hate your way into loving yourself. And, it goes along with treating treating yourself like your best friend. You wouldn't put your best friend down all the time.

I mean, a lot of people say treat yourself like you're looking at your inner child. If you're looking at 5 year old Hannah, would you be telling her all these things that she should and shouldn't be and can and can't do? No. You wanna show her the world. And so it's just about treating yourself this way even after you graduate high school, even after you're in college.

Because the more that you learn to trust yourself, the more that you love yourself and the more that you love your choices, the less that you will need that external validation and the less that you'll need other people to also love these choices. And that's the best way to become in alignment with who you are. And sometimes I feel like I shouldn't even be talking about these things because I'm just in the midst of my own my own stuff. And so I don't ever wanna come across like I'm trying to show that I have everything wrapped up in a cute little bow, and here's my podcast full of advice and tips and self help stuff because I'm still, struggling every day with some of these things. But I just I had this submission when I'd asked of topics to talk about, and I just thought that it was such a good one.

And so, yeah, I hope that it resonated with some of you guys. I hope that you enjoy today's episode. I just really appreciate everybody for listening. I'm really excited. Tomorrow, I will be back with a weekly Friday recap, so you can look forward to that.

We're going to be talking about all of the latest news and drama within TV shows that are coming out, notably the secret lives of Mormon wives and the controversy around that. Again, Thursday's episodes, these are always more insightful and more, I don't know, vulnerable conversations about life and whatnot. And Friday episodes are a free for all. We're talking we're talking about, wild things happening in pop culture and just kinda keeping it keeping it more casual. And so I hope that you enjoy today's episode and that you'll tune in for tomorrow's.

And thank you so much for rating the show. I noticed some new ratings, and I really appreciate that. You are the absolute best, and I will talk to you guys later!!! Byeeeeee